Fertility News and Research Update
InfertilityBlues.com e-Publication January 2005

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Rekindle & Strengthen
Your Relationship

Fertility News

Fertility Research

Fertility Recipe

Mind/Body Group

YOGA Classes

Mind Body Store


Rekindle & Strengthen
Your Relationship

By Gayle Crespy, Psy.D.

Do you remember the moment that you decided that your spouse was "the one" for you? What about how you used to laugh and joke around together? If these memories seem as if they happened in another lifetime or in the very distant past, then you probably need to take the time to recharge and reignite your relationship. This article examines the strain that infertility places on relationships and provides powerful solutions for strengthening and reinvigorating them.

While some people find that their union becomes stronger during an infertility crisis, many others find that the tension and stress can be overwhelming. Couples rarely travel the infertility journey at the same rate and in the same way. Women typically are ready to initiate medical treatment earlier, are more apt to ruminate over infertility issues, feel their emotions more strongly and express them more readily. These factors can contribute toward marital distress, hinder the ability to make treatment decisions, and make being physically intimate more challenging. Therefore, developing and enhancing a couple's communication skills are vital to fortifying the relationship.

A central principle to realize is that the relationship needs to remain a top priority. This requires regular maintenance and nurturance. A solid partnership and strong communication skills add protection against the individual strain of the infertility process. Attending medical appointments and treatments together and informing each other about which events each person feels comfortable or uncomfortable attending (for example, a baby shower or a family function) are ways that a couple can work closely together.

Couples frequently find discussing infertility issues emotionally draining and overwhelming. It helps to be mindful of having these discussions at times when both partners have sufficient emotional resources (e.g., earlier in the day). In addition, it helps to agree in advance to limit how much time will be spent on these topics (e.g., 20-30 minute maximum). Sticking closely to these suggestions can help keep the issues of infertility from consuming one's life and overwhelming a relationship.

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Happy New Year!

This newsletter is designed to provide you with the latest fertility news and research so that you can make the most informed decisions. We carefully select items that are of special interest for those dealing with infertility issues and who want to know more about Mind Body techniques. It is sincerely hoped that this letter will be of great use to you.

  • Fertility News
  • Pregnancy Possible After Fibroid Treatment (12/29/04, Reuters- ABC News)

    How nature keeps eggs 'in check': Researchers have found a receptor that they believe keeps eggs in arrested development until they are ready to be fertilized. (12/29/04, BBC News)

    Mend Body's Imbalances With Acupuncture (12/28/04, Red Nova)

    Changes in lifestyle help 'Syndrome O' [PCOS] (12/21/04, The Delaware News Journal)

    A Noodge Too Far [One for the relatives] (12/10/04, The Jewish Journal of Greater Los Angeles)

    View More News Items...
  • Fertility Research
  • Relationship between the timing of hysterosalpingography before gamete intrafallopian transfer and the subsequent fertility outcome (Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology Research, Vol. 30, Iss.6, Page 448, December 2004)

    Treatment with piroxicam before embryo transfer increases the pregnancy rate after in vitro fertilization and embryo transfer (Fertility and Sterility, Vol. 82, Iss. 4, Pages: 816-820, October 2004)

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  • Fertility Recipe
  • Osteoporosis is a disease in which the amount of calcium in the bones decreases to the point that the bones become brittle and prone to fracture. Many women think that osteoporosis only affects them during menopause. Unfortunately, any woman who is estrogen deficient as a result of infertility is at risk for developing this crippling disease. Here is a recipe that is packed with calcium. You may be interested in knowing that this recipe is lactose free. The source of calcium is from mustard greens.

    Turkey with Mustard Greens

    18 pounds of mustard greens (about 4 big bunches); 2 qts of water; 1 cup chopped onion; 1 tbsp of salt; 1.2 tsp ground red pepper; 5 thyme sprigs; 2 big turkey wings skinned; 1 bay leaf; 1 1/4 pounds of turnips (peeled and quartered)

    Trim stems from greens, chop leaves coarsely. Combine greens, water and remaining ingredients in a large stockpot and bring to a boil. Cover, reduce heat and simmer for 45 minutes. Serve with whole grain rice. Makes 8 servings.
    - Maria Biasucci-Vianna, MS, Nutritionist

  • Mind/Body Group
  • Consider beginning 2005 by doing something to nurture yourself while at the same time enhancing your chances for conception. Have you thought about joining a Mind/Body infertility group? A 10-Session Mind/Body Group, "Enhancing Fertility and Overcoming the Infertility Blues," is now forming.

    Program components include: Stress Awareness "Mini" Relaxation Exercises Relaxation Response Training Yoga Class Breathing Exercises Guided Imagery Deep Muscle Relaxation Stress Triggers Nutritionist Talk Exercise Information Positive Restructuring Challenging Cognitive Distortions

    Group Begins: Later this month (January, 2005), Tuesday's 6:30- 9:00pm. Location: White Plains, NY. If you live outside of New York State, check our National Mind Body Program List for a program closer to you!

    Contact us today to learn more!
  • YOGA Classes
  • As 2005 gently unfolds in front of us, consider starting the year by trying a fertility yoga class.

    What are some things to consider when choosing a yoga class? Ask yourself: Is the class location (e.g., near work or home) and is the time offered convenient for me? Do I feel comfortable practicing this style of yoga? Is it affordable? How large is the class? Does the teacher make me feel safe and comfortable?

    At FertilityYoga.com, we have begun to put together a national list of fertility yoga classes. Check and see if one is in your area. Namaste.
    -Monica Morell, PhD

    Monica has an excellent yoga video ...
  • Mind Body Store
  • After receiving many requests over the past few years to recommend Mind Body books, relaxation tapes, and videos, we decided to put together our Mind Body Store.

    Visit the Mind Body Store...
    Phone Number: 914.584.4460

    Behavioral Management Infertility Program | 10 Rye Ridge Plaza | Suite 107 | Rye Brook | NY | 10573


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